5 Things I wish I knew about baby’s birth delivery
Most of us think that we just need to go to the hospital on our baby’s due day and then the baby would just be with us in few hours. The actual scenario is quite different then what is generally perceived. Your labour day includes hours of pain, exertion, and awkward moments and situations to bring your baby into this world.
1. Water broke?
Your water will break when your baby’s birth is near, that is what is known by the general population; but what does that actually mean? Ladies who are having a baby for the first time usually don’t have any idea of what’s going on, until they make a run for the delivery room.
Once your amniotic fluid breaks, it keeps dripping slowly throughout the day. In certain prolonged cases doctors break the amniotic sac for you. It feels very awkward as doctors use special instruments to artificially induce the process. The hospital staff of the concerned department would suggest you to use a thick pad in between the legs to soak up the moisture.
Despite your baby’s protective sac being broken and your amniotic fluid leaking out, it may still not be time for you baby to come out. You need to wait for the actual contractions to develop and the cervix to dilate to give birth naturally and safely and this process might take more than just a day.
In time of near labour, you can choose to either stay at home or go to a hospital and get the help of doctors to help ease those contractions. Waiting for the right level of contractions by yourself is very discomforting and painful.
2. Giving birth with strangers
Once you reach the hospital to deliver your baby. You would be given a separate delivery room with a team of hospital staff including one or two mid-wives, a OB-GYN that may or may not be your regular gynaecologist and an an anaesthesiologist. All these new faces might concern you at first, but you need to know that these people will undoubtedly take care of you nonetheless. It seems worrisome at first, but you do not need to worry about anything as these people would have your complete medical history and are certified to carry on their duties.
Although you can bring-in your spouse/partner or any other family member into the delivery room with you for moral support, they cannot help you with anything other than that. After spending a whole day full of pain and exertion with such helpful and kind people they are sure to become the most favourite and memorable people in your life.
3. Painful time
You might think as though you are strong enough to bear any level of physical pain but during labour your tolerance level is sure to meet its match. Throughout labour, contractions slowly feel as though they are regular menstrual cramps but as time passes the level of pain keeps rising up until it reaches unbearable levels.
The doctor would suggest you to 3 stages of anaesthesia to help bear the pain of your labour. The first two are most likely not helpful for a long period of time. The pain of contractions becomes so insane that you can literally not grasp what is happening inside your body and you might feel like you’re about to die any second now, but by asking your doctor to give you epidural, might virtually eliminate nay pain you might have and be restful for the rest of the labour period.
Once you get the epidural injected, your life becomes a lot easier. Its affect stays longer and usually until you give birth to your baby. Bearing these contractions is considerably harder than the 9 months of carrying the baby inside you.
4. Not allowed to go to toilet
Once in the delivery room after the hospital staff has prepared you to go into labour, you are not given the opportunity to move around freely. You would be wearing lots of wires and medical equipment that it becomes really hard for you to move out of bed.
During the entirety of your labour period (around 22 -24 hours) you would have to be bed-ridden and you must do everything there. This includes restriction for using the toilet and restroom for any reasons at all.Most pregnant women do not find this to be a very pleasant experience.
When you are pushing out your baby, you will literally feel like you need to go to the toilet. Sometimes you actually need to go to the toilet but its mostly a sign that your baby is ready to come out.
5. Pushing the baby
This is the final and most important phase of your baby’s delivery. You will be placed in a very awkward bottom up position for your baby to come out easily. if you were given epidural,your lower body becomes numb, you are unable to feel anything including the pain and you lose the feeling of knowing how much necessary push is required for your baby to come out easily.
Your family in the delivery room and the hospital staff will keep on encouraging you to push harder and you may try your best too but you will not be able to use your whole strength even without the epidural. You will feel drained from enduring pain throughout the day and then pushing hard for your baby to come into this world. Don’t worry though, you will eventually accomplish the task with the help and encouragement of your hospital staff as well as your family members.
Although the area in-between the vagina and the back passageway is quite stretchy, the baby might need extra space to come out. In doing so, this area might suffer a few tears and will require stitches for recovery. Depending upon the depth of your cut, you might get deep and/or sometimes light stitches. IN the entirety of this whole situation, you as a mother should not afraid of any of these issues as they are temporary, but the life of your baby is not and it will help heal all your scars in the end.
It is a really good idea to go to birth preparatory classes for you to become mentally ready to go under labour, as many pregnant women feel very scared and worried when going under labour.
Talking to experienced women in family or friends in this regards can help you gain personal knowledge and experience in the grand scheme of things and you will go through the process carefree.
Depending on the circumstances, your doctor may give you a choice to opt for a C-section. It is advised that you know the actual positives and negatives of this delivery method in order to make a wise decision for yourself and your baby.
Despite all this exertion and pain, you will always cherish this day and celebrate the birth of your baby every year. You, as a mother, will be rewarded with a baby for all the pain that you had to go through. At the end of the day you and your family will end up being overwhelmingly happy with the arrival of a new family member, so keep yourself motivated.