Life post pregnancy: There are so many things that we don’t know to expect until our baby has finally arrived - and that’s all totally normal! In this article we’ll cover a few things to be mindful of, and help you get back on track post-pregnancy.
Throughout your pregnancy, you’ll
have constant support, advice and guidance from a whole host of people!
From your doctor and midwife,
antenatal classes, books and resources, family members and friends. Getting
through pregnancy can feel like a breeze with so much information and support
around to help you!
But what happens once you’ve given
birth and you finally get home with your new bundle of joy?
How do you get your life back on
Any new parent will tell you how
tricky it is coping with a new baby in the house, There are so many things that
we don’t know to expect until our baby has finally arrived - and that’s all
In this article we’ll cover a few things to be mindful of, and
help you get back on track post-pregnancy.
1. Looking After
The biggest shock you might have
is your body post-pregnancy. Everything will be different! You’ll no doubt have
gotten completely used to having your baby to carry around and it can be a very
weird feeling to not have that any more.
Your stomach muscles will be
coping with trying to get back to normal, now there’s no baby to carry around.
Your uterus, vagina and internal organs will also be coping with the trauma of
labour and giving birth.
Here’s some helpful tips for
looking after your body post pregnancy:
to rest:it’s very important to spend time resting post pregnancy. It takes
on average 3-4 months to fully heal and recover from being pregnant and giving
birth so make sure you don’t put too much pressure on your post-pregnancy body!
Healthy:You’re going to be so busy taking care of your new baby, so it’s
crucial to make sure you’re getting the right nutrients for optimal energy and
health. The same as during pregnancy, make sure you eat plenty of fresh fruit,
vegetables and healthy fats - and keep hydrated!
light exercise - once you’re ready:Depending on how your birth
went, your doctor will let you know when it is safe to start having some light
exercise. Swimming, yoga, walking and light cardio can work wonders for your
body while it’s recovering. Even just going for a stroll in the park with your
new baby can make a big difference.
self-care:Small self-care treatments can make a huge difference. Get your
hair done, a manicure, a massage or a facial. Feeling good about your body and
yourself will really help your recovery - and also your emotional health.
2. Looking After
Your Emotional Health
Postnatal depression is a very
real and sometimes very serious experience for a lot of women. Many women will
report experiencing the ‘baby blues’ post-pregnancy as they come to terms with
their new body, and new way of living.
It is very important to take care
of your mental health following pregnancy. Some ways to do this include:
social:After giving birth, it can be tempting to stay shut up at home,
coping with looking after your new baby. You might not feel like going out or
seeing anyone, but it’s important to make the effort, and time, for family and
friends. Even just once a week can work wonders for your emotional health.
a mum and baby group:With your partner, friends and family all at work you might start
to feel a bit isolated, with only your baby for company. Joining a mum and baby group can work wonders for your emotional health as you’ll be interacting with
other mums going through exactly the same things as you. It’s a great support
self-care:As mentioned, self care is really important and making the time
to look after yourself can really help your emotional health.
sure you talk to someone: If you’re feeling down, or blue, post pregnancy, it’s really
important to let someone know. Talk to your midwife, doctor, family or friends
about how you’re feeling so they can reassure you that you’re not alone. Your
doctor can also make recommendations for coping with postnatal depression, if
they think this is what you might be experiencing.
One of the best things you can do
for yourself, your baby and your home post pregnancy is setting a new routine.
In the beginning this may seem really difficult, but the more you stick to it,
the easier it will get and you’ll quickly find that both you and your partner,
as well as your baby benefit.
This includes simple things like
agreeing who is going to cook dinner on what nights, when and who is going to
make sure the laundry is done, and pick up the groceries.
Your baby will need feeding at
regular intervals throughout the night, so set alarms and get into the habit of
waking up to feed them at the same times each night to encourage them into the
Make sure you have a proper morning and night time routine for
your baby so that they develop a rhythm - you will definitely reap the benefits
of doing this! This includes:
Feeding at the same
time each morning and during the day
Putting them down
for regular naps at the same time each day
Bath time at the
same time each day
Putting them down to
sleep at the same time each day
Like I said, you might find this
extremely tricky to start with, but it will get easier over time and will help
you manage life post pregnancy much easier!
4. Make Time to
be a Couple
Now that your baby is finally
here, it is so easy to let them become your one and only focus - which is
completely natural and understandable!
But it’s also very important to
still make time for you and your partner as a couple. While you’re at home all
day with the baby, and your partner is at work, seemingly continuing to live a
‘normal’ life, it’s easy to maybe resent them a little bit and feel like you’re
the only one doing all the hard work!
Agree on a date night each week -
you don’t even need to leave the house if you’re worried about leaving baby
with a sitter. Just making the time to sit together, talk, watch a movie, get a
take away and relax as a couple can make all the difference. Remember to switch
off mobiles and turn off laptops and give each other your full focus.
This will help you stay feeling
connected, and give you the opportunity to get reassurance from your partner
that you are doing this together, as a team!
Remember: don’t expect your
partner to be a mind reader. If you need more support from them, or are feeling
overwhelmed - tell them! Give them the best chance to help you when you need it
by telling them.
5. Get Support
If you are struggling with
anything, no matter how big or small it might seem, make sure you get support.
Having a new baby is hard work!
It’s challenging and you will find that every single new parent struggles -
especially in the beginning. If after a month or so you’re still having a
really hard time, make sure you work out what it is that you need help with and
If that means asking a family
member or friend to come over one day a week to help with laundry then do it!
If you need an afternoon off or a day off to just relax without baby, then ask
someone to come and help out. There is no shame in taking a little bit of time
to focus on you so you can be the best mum to baby.
If you’re worried you might be
experiencing depression, don’t keep quiet about it - get support. Speak to your
partner, family, friends and your doctor so they can all rally around you and
give you the help you need.
Becoming a new mum can feel like
we have to do everything ourselves and that we’re being selfish or a ‘bad mum’
if we need to get help with anything but this is just simply not true.
The most important thing right now
is to make sure you are the best version of you so that you can take the very
best care of your baby. If having a cleaner come in to take care of all the
housework frees up your time to do that, then do it.
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